A while ago I wrote a blog about whether or not male and females could be friends without men at some point thinking about the females in a sexual way. I disagreed vehemently. I have since changed my mind. And Tim, yes you are correct. With every word, people are subconsciously determining whether or not they want to be that person's friend and at some level whether or not they could "sleep" with the other person. Whether or not this is at a conscious level is another thing.
Being at a conscious level depends in part on the boundaries. If for example, the woman is married, the sexual thinking may not reach consciousness. If the woman becomes single, the man may or may not explore that boundary. If the man is married, he may or may not admit the sexual part. But it may be there in harmless, fun flirting.
Recently, I have become more aware of the breaking down of boundaries. I apparently was clueless or wanted to be clueless. When a person, married or not, asked me to do something, like go diving, I just figured it was to go diving. DOH!!! How naive of me. Sadly, I now have to take into consideration ulterior motives. I had more fun the other way. I could just be me. Now, I feel as though I have to be on guard all the time -- I feel as though I am in a Monty Python movie -- "On guard you are in terrible peril. But no, it's my duty to to sample as much peril as I can. Oh, let me just have a little peril."
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Sigh.....so does this mean that now you believe that all men think with their penis and all women nobly battle to suppress their sexual sub-conscious? Sam, Sam, Sam. I'm surprised you would buy into such generalistic thinking. What happened to the process of critical thinking and analysis of individual events based on the facts pertinent and direct to an individual situation or single event and result? Misreading the intent of one scurrilous scuba diver shouldn't result in the condemnation of all men and women into nice neat, little, well-defined cubby holes of behavorial patterns, despite what your friend Tim says. Can't people just be people - individuals with their own set of UNIQUE beliefs, behaviors, and character flaws? If you've change your mind, does this mean you'll be surrendering your crown - you know, the one that belongs to the Queen of Data Mining? LOL
Yip, I surrender my crown. I am not longer an individual. We are just a mass of like beings with like behaviours. It's sad but true. There are rules that govern us. If they vote Mc-Cain-Palin in, then I am soooooo right. It appears that everyone wants to do her. Well at the men. The media can't get off the "Palin is attractive" bandwagon". Another clue, that people are not thinking critically.
I don't condemn. I just am realizing that I am a lamb out there. And I am sad. very very sad at the moment. This too shall pass. And I will change my mind. Keep an eye out for a blog to Dennis..... lol
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