“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that's bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they're afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It's all in how you carry it. That's what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you're letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” Jim Morrison
Why are people so afraid of the dark side, of pain, of love? Of opening up, of sharing thoughts, feelings? It never ceases to amaze me that we were given a gift of speech and communication and yet we are so confused by it. We struggle so much with it. We find it so difficult to come up with the words to describe what makes us happy for example. What is happiness? Such a slippery concept. Is pain an easier concept? If so, why? Is it scary to you that I can talk about pain? That I feel pain? That I expose my pain in poetry? Pain can be embraced and be a creative part of life rather than debilitating. Words are powerful; they are not to be feared. Feelings, pain, happiness, love, need to be expressed in many ways. Imagine expressing without fear. Live life as you dream it.
What is pain? Pain can be emotional as well as physical. I have both. At times my physical pain is so intense I just want to scream but only I can hear. Chronic pain is debilitating. So is emotional pain. I am not ashamed of my pain. It is my reality. Pain changes. I refuse to let the fear of pain deny me the other side of the coin - love. Who knows when this will happen but I travel hopefully. On my wrist I wear a band that reads "Love Faith Believe Dream." These words remind me to have faith in myself, to believe in the power or the present and the future, dream of possibilities, and that love I have yet to experience is possible.
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You have taken the time to reflect on your own painful experiences and admitted to yourself that it is real and understand that with time you will be able to grow beyond the pain. Unresolved emotional loss can be a source of psychological pain for years. With emotional pain, there are no visible wounds and scars but every time a similar situation happens like the one that has hurt you, the 'invisible' wound would always hurt. Everyone has their own limits of emotional tolerance but beyond a certain point, any “Pain” can be overwhelming
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